Girls are always making lists. Like, "My husband will always open the door for me, kiss me goodnight, tell me I'm pretty at least 18 times a day, and bring me flowers spontaneously 13 times a month. Oh. And on Wednesdays we wear pink."
She is a high maintenance girl.
I kind-of don't think about my list for my honey-smoochie-pie that often, mostly because I don't need to. I'm not getting married for like, 6 years, so it's not something I need to worry about now. However, I actually thought about this today for a second, and I would like to record some of the things that are important to me that my husband will know/do/say/whatever. Ehm....
....So I just wrote them down and it's a long list and that's kinda not the point of this blog post. The point is that there is one thing that is above all on the importance scale to me. And that is that....
My husband needs to go with me to Africa.
But wait, there's more.
Africa is a big commitment. My husband needs to want to go to Africa. I would so love it if he wanted to go even before I told him that I did, if it was something he'd dreamed of even before he met me.
It kinda isn't enough for me if he just wants to go because I do and he wants to be with me. I know that sounds bratty but it's actually not. Listen. I don't want someone to make that huge decision and then regret it. And want to go home. And resent me for dragging him off to Africa. That is the opposite of what I want.
At the same time, if a boy I'm dating doesn't want to go to Africa. even won't go to Africa, there's no way that that relationship will get very far.
Africa is what I want. If that's not what you want then you are not what I want, and I am not what you want.
My future husband needs to fulfill these requirements. And this is not numbered bc it's not by importance. They are all equally important.
Not really.
Know when an avocado is ripe and act accordingly.
Not make me feel bad about my paleness
Say funny things
Think I'm funny
Want to talk about current events with me and get as excited about them as I do
Not be sensitive about dumb things
Not argumentative. He needs to be really chill
Let me drive when we're going somewhere together. Not every time, but sometimes you know?
Be really happy that we're married and tolerate with sweetness how many times I will inevitably bring it up
Want to adopt kids
Love Star Wars and watch the old ones with me whenever I so wish
Love Arthur
Love my friends especially Gina
Love my family
Love me
Love the USA
Be a US citizen
Be okay with how much I watch The Office
And Barbie in the 12 Dancing Princesses
And the Dark Knight
And Taken
Ehm.
Appreciate nature
Love hanging out with me!
Travel with me and enjoy it!
Be smart
Love to learn
Depending on how I/he is when we meet, he will either be getting his bachelor's or his master's. I would not mind him getting a Ph.D. if his heart so desires, but an education is important
Be protective of the things that I love
Be protective of me
Be good at picking up what I'm putting down
Understand most if not all of my movie and song references
Appreciate natural light
Have a happy disposition
Love to work
This one sounds weird I know, but I love to work and I think a good work ethic is really important in a husband, because I don't want to be the sole provider for our family. Sorry, feminists.
Read The Economist and al Jazeera with me
Love hiking but only the right kind of hiking. As in it must be on a dirt path under the cover of many trees on a mountain. None of that R Mountain crap. Get a life.
Love dogs
Like kipper snacks, or at least not tell me how ugly I am if I eat them.
Love Oreo McFlurries
Have a nice, genuine smile
Be a kind, caring, giving person
Love paying tithing
I'd prefer if he doesn't have blue or green eyes. I really like brown eyes. I wish I had brown eyes.
Love Orville
Be good with money
Surprise me cutely sometimes :)
Understand how important sleep is and how much I love it
Like to listen to me play flute
Love Christmas as much as I do
And the 4th of July
And Thanksgiving
BE NICE TO WAITERS/WAITRESSES
Tip well
Always say please and thank you and smile at them
Alright. This turned out to be so much longer than I thought it would be, and actually I'm sure it could be much longer, but that's it for now. Happy searching for me!
Actually I guess that's not true. I have liked President George W. Bush since I was in 4th grade. I was in 4th grade when 9/11 happened. As a simple 9 year-old I saw something bad happen and then I saw an incredible amount of pride in our country sweep the nation. I saw our President acting strongly and speaking resolutely. I liked what he had to say. I liked that he wasn't going to let those people who had hurt my countrymen and women get away with it. I liked him and I have liked him ever since.
This is one of my favorite pictures :)
Now, this is not to say that I agree with everything he's ever done ever in his life. I like him the same way that I like President Obama. Yeah that's right guys, I like President Obama.
Again though, I am not saying I agree with any/all/some of his policies. The truth is there are things I disagree with for both of them. But here's why I like them....
I like them bc I don't think either of them meant/means to harm America. I believe that both of them LOVE America! This makes me happy.
Now, just because I like somebody doesn't mean it stops there. I do wish that certain things weren't happening in America right now. The same goes for when the Bush Administration was around. You can like someone and not agree with everything they do. It's allowed, guys.
I think it's okay to disagree with someone's policies, but that doesn't make them the anti-Christ. It doesn't mean they are horrible people. It just means that they think and act differently than you, and I personally like that we have the freedom to do that.
The other day I saw this thing. I think it was on facebook. It was this picture
And the caption was something like, "President Obama caught reading a book by fellow Muslim Fareed Zakaria. It is called The Post-American World. Have any doubts about where his policy choices are leading now??"
I was so pissed off by this. Here's the dealio, guys. I read Fareed Zakaria. Paige and I lovee reading Fareed Zakaria. Any PoliSci student has read/will read/is reading right now Fareed Zakaria. He is a noted Political Scientist who is a naturalized US citizen. In one of his lectures he said, "I voted with my feet. I wanted to be part of America."
No, I am not saying that I agree with everything Fareed Zakaria says. I don't. However, I do very much love hearing him talk. He is an excellent speaker and I enjoy the perspectives he gives. He is a pretty smart guy.
I think it is really bad politics to try to take something about someone like religion and have that be the say-all, end-all of that person. Just because someone is Mormon, or Catholic, or Muslim, or Protestant, does not mean that they are the worst human being imaginable and not fit to run the country. It just means that they are someone who has a different religion than you.
"I find it preposterous that in 2011 we’re debating whether or not a man is qualified or worthy of your vote based on whether or not his religion ... is a disqualifying provision."
-Vice President Joe Biden on Romney's Mormonism
I seriously love that quote.
Now, this isn't to say that everyone is on equal grounds here. If the president of a crazy cult was running for office, it would be a different story. If someone publishes a book, say it is called....Mein Kauf and in it he details his plans for the destruction of entire peoples, you should judge him based off that absolutely.
But bringing religion, race, etc., into things is such a desperately low blow. It's bringing politics away from politics. Those things shouldn't matter to you.
What should matter are the policies of those running. Do you know them? You should. Blindly going along with someone bc of anything else is not the way it should be done. Holding grudges because of one policy that you don't like is another wrong way to go about politics.
It is important to remember that, like him/her or not, we are stuck with our president for at least four years andd it could even be eight. So, you can sit around griping about it all you want, those four years are still gonna happen. It would be very beneficial, however, if you stopped saying everything that was going wrong and started coming up with solutions and sharing them with others in a constructive manner. We don't always need to be at each other's throats. It is quite unproductive.
America is the leader of the free world, and its citizens should consider that responsibility, whether they want us to have it or not, very carefully. Our decisions of those we vote into office will absolutely affect the entire world. We should take it seriously and look at what matters.
You can be very naive. And think that "getting a fake" is getting a fake tan, or that a hanger party is a party wherein girls walk around with hangers and wait for boys to come tie a ribbon or something around their hanger. And then they dance all old-fashioned-like! And no one ever gets hurt by the hangers.
Sometimes your Understanding DNA teacher is absent. Right before a test. That he only told you about last Friday and it's Monday. And you had a test last Wednesday for that class. And he didn't even teach you half of what is supposed to be on the test. And you just know that in his head that is okay, and he's like "good luck, suckers! No one will ever pass my class, ever! Bwahahaaaa!"
Sometimes things like that make you upset bc you really care about and love this class, and your fuh-reaken hours of studying should be rewarded somehow.
Sometimes you never ever sleep at your house on Friday nights, and you can't even remember the last time you did so. And it's not even a big deal, even though you sometimes don't see any of your roommates for two days straight.
Sometimes, you see dysfunctional relationships and you honestly have no idea what to do except talk about it. Because even though you're not a gossipy B, you just don't know how to handle it and you need advices.
Sometimes, it's none of your business, and you need to accept that and let people make their own mistakes.
But sometimes that is really hard to do.
Sometimes, your roommate gets a boyfriend and you don't even know quite how you manage it but sommeeehow there is never a normal moment when you are around the two of them. In fact, by now you most definitely know much more about him and how his brain works and his life and knowledge of all things sexual and you honestly have no idea how it came to all of this.
And sometimes he's like, "don't be gross! I didn't mean that." And then does into a very detailed description of what that is, and you're like, "oh my gosh be QUIET. I have noo desire to speak of this with you I just wanted my water bottle!" But he just keeps going and it becomes very apparent to you that not everyone is good at picking up what you are, so extraordinarily clearly, putting down.
Sometimes, a convict escapes from work detail in St Anthony and everybody freaks out, except your roommate who says he will never come here.
Sometimes you discuss with your other roommate and you both agree that he would indeed come here, bc that is what Tweener did in Prison Break.
Sometimes no one else watches Prison Break so they don't believe you and try to tell you its unrealistic.
Sometimes, you are going home in a little over two weeks and you just don't believe it, but you start packing anyway.
Sometimes the girls in your complex and the complex next to yours go to bed super-early and it's weird and you feel afeared when you're the only one up at 1 in the morning.
Sometimes, your best friend is in Africa, and you're so happy for her but you miss her so much.
Because sometimes, even when you are separated by two thousand miles, it doesn't seem like it is that far bc you still talk sometimes. But now that she is much farther away, and you never talk, sometimes you really feel that distance. And sometimes that makes you realize how much you relied on and needed her.
And sometimes that realization makes you a very sad girl, and you hate all these sad understandings you've been getting lately.
Sometimes, you actually go to your own ward for once and you quickly figure out exactly how toolish your FHE sons are, and it is disappointing as well as annoying as shiiii bc they think they are sooo cool and they are just not. Not at all.
And sometimes, it makes you never want to go to FHE. And you don't want to fix it with them bc what's the point? Tools gonna tool- and not just sometimes. They don't think they're doing anything wrong, and you don't have the time and you certainly don't have the patience to explain to them the multitude of things they've got backwards.
And sometimes you aren't even interested in seeing them ever again, because sometimes they disgust you that much.
Sometimes you think about how ironic it is that the most toolish boys you know are LDS, and some of the nicest are the ones your dad would be most upset to see you bring home.
Sometimes, you haven't written your missionaries in awhile, and you feel horrible, and you miss them a lot more than you ever thought you would. And sometimes that makes you sad.
And sometimes, all of this happens at once, and you just get so sick of it and want more than anything to go home.
